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Don't Grow Up, It's a Trap

  • Writer: Jill MacKenzie
    Jill MacKenzie
  • Nov 17, 2025
  • 2 min read

We tried to answer a simple, childhood question this week and ended up detonating the entire concept of "growing up." This conversation is a wild ride from existential dread to the profound betrayal of a $200 Dell laptop versus an Alienware rig (we're still not over it, honestly).


If you've ever felt like you're just faking it until you make it (and suspect everyone else is too), this episode is your sacred text.


We get into:

  • Why "I don't wanna grow up" is a valid life philosophy.

  • The stark difference between self-preservation (a trauma response) and self-sustainability (a sovereign choice).

  • How to spot and unravel manipulative patterns you learned as survival tactics.

  • Our hot take on why telling someone they're "acting like a child" is an insult to children.

  • The sacred, unhinged freedom of eating lasagna for breakfast just because you can.


A Moment to Pause in the Chaos


Between the laughs and the "holy shit" revelations, this episode was packed with little landmines of truth. 💣 If you need a quick hit of clarity from the chaos, here’s what we’re sitting with:


  • You Make the Meaning: Nothing "happens for a reason" until you assign the reason. ✅ Your power lies in your interpretation and what you choose to do with the experience. Take your sovereignty back.

  • Adulting is a Feeling, Not an Age: It’s not about bills or babies. It’s the internal shift from relying on external safety to creating your own. It’s the quiet confidence that you can figure it the fuck out, even when you have no idea what you're doing.

  • Honor Your Resilient Inner Child: That part of you that learned to manipulate, people-please, or shut down to survive? 🙏Thank them. They got you here. Then, gently tell them you’ve got it from here. You can choose a new, more sustainable way to exist.

  • Emotional Expression is a Skill: For many of us, it wasn't modeled. It’s not innate; it’s practiced. Give yourself permission to be a "bitch boy" sometimes. Feel the feeling. It won't kill you. It might actually free you.


The final thought? You are not behind. You are not failing at being a "real adult." You are simply in a constant state of becoming, and you get to define what that looks like. Now go put your butter on the counter because you're a grown-ass adult and you can. Drop in to the episode here.



 
 
 

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