Forget the bucket list... make it a f*ck it list.

Happy 2026! This week’s episode is a declaration. A “fuck it” to what’s no longer serving us, and a “hell yes” to what’s ahead—even if it’s messy, uncomfortable, or involves breaking into your own car with a coat hanger.

Abmari and I sat down and dropped our Fuck It Lists for 2026. No resolutions, no soft launches. Just straight-up shedding what doesn’t belong anymore. Drop in to the chaos here.

This episode is for anyone who’s ready to stop performing their life and start living it—even if it means asking for help, setting boundaries, or doing a handstand in the middle of the kitchen.

Here’s a taste of the chaos:

• I am done being “wildly patient to my detriment.” I'm trading people-pleasing for reality-receiving, and learning to trust people when they show me who they are—not who I hope they’ll be.

• Abmari is saying fuck it to freezing in the face of fear—especially around health and money. No more pretending scary things don’t exist. Also: vowing to never merge finances with someone who isn’t, well… fortified.

• We talked about trust like a piece of paper—full at the start, but every tear changes it. Can it be repaired? Yes. Will it be the same? No. And that’s okay.

• We also covered: parenting as a mirror, hip mobility with literal fire, and why Jill’s knee brace is her new BFF.

Sometimes in the middle of the mess, you need to just… stop. Breathe. Listen to what the chaos is actually trying to tell you.

Here are a few quiet takeaways from the noise:

• Trust isn’t a gift you give once. It’s a living thing—built, torn, repaired, and sometimes, reforged into something stronger, but never the same.

• You can’t heal what you pretend isn’t broken. Ignoring the letter, the bill, the feeling, the fear—it doesn’t make it disappear. It just makes it heavier.

• Help isn’t a weakness. It’s an act of sovereignty. Letting someone hold the hammer while you watch isn’t surrender—it’s strategy.

• Your body isn’t a tool to be used. It’s you. Move it gently. Listen to it. And maybe, just maybe, don’t ask it to carry what your heart has already dropped.

• “Fortified” isn’t about being impenetrable. It’s about being solid in who you are, so you can open the gates without fear of collapse.

If you're ready to build something stronger, softer, and a lot more real in 2026... this episode is your first brick.