The Anatomy of a Spell

Episode 28 is live, and it’s a fun little journey to nowhere and everywhere all at once. We started by finally launching our merch (we were our own first customers, no shame), and then we fell headfirst down a rabbit hole that includes:

• Memory Loss & Absolutes: We genuinely can’t remember our own wedding dates and why saying “I always forget” is a spell you need to break.

• Confrontation vs. Conflict: We’re dismantling why you run from discomfort and why “confrontation” just means “to bring forward,” not “to start a fight.”

• The Regulating Nervous System: Spoiler: It’s not a regulated state of zen. It’s an action. We’re talking about the tiny, powerful pause between your spiraling thought and your response—and how to widen it.

• Our New Favorite Word: You’ll have to listen to find out, but it involves merging “clearly” and “literally” into something… superior.

  
  

We’re dissecting why so many of us walk around feeling like our existence is an infringement on others, and how to stop letting your amygdala convince you that mild discomfort equals imminent death.

Oh, and the merch?.. We’re excited.

The “Do Better” hoodie is a directive. It’s an effortlessly cool piece for those who are done with the status quo. Wanna feel like the main character? You should. Our “Sponsored by the Universe” sweater is for just this - it’s cosmic confirmation. And we’d be remiss if we didn’t have an “Unsubscribe” t-shirt up our sleeves. Pun intended. Check it all out here! 

A Moment to Pause in the Chaos

This entire episode boils down to one powerful truth: Words Are Spells. The language you use isn't just descriptive—it's creative. It builds your reality, from your internal state to your external circumstances. Every "I am," "I always," and "I never" is an incantation. It's time to get intentional about your magic.

Here’s how to start rewriting your spells:

• The Spell of Identity: Saying "I am anxious" casts a permanent, identity-level curse.

  👉 Your Action: Interrupt the spell. Change "I am anxious" to "I feel anxiety right now" or "I notice anxious thoughts." This creates separation and gives you back your power.

• The Spell of Absolutes: Words like "always" and "never" are powerful enchantments that lock you into a story.

  👉 Your Action: Catch one absolute today. Change "I always mess up" to "I sometimes mess up, and I can learn." Feel the cage door swing open.

• The Spell of Confrontation: We avoid "confrontation" because we've spelled it to mean "conflict."

  👉 Your Action: Re-cast the word. For one week, replace "confrontation" with "clarity" in your mind. "I need to bring clarity to this situation." Watch how your relationship to it shifts.

• The Master Spell: “The Pause.” The most potent magic happens in the tiny gap between a thought and your reaction.

  👉 Your Action: Before you speak or react today, insert one conscious breath. In that space, ask: "What spell am I about to cast?" Then choose.

  
  

You are the witchy wizard, not the spell. You have the power to break old incantations and cast new ones. What reality will you speak into existence today?