Own Your 💩 or ☠️ Miserable

Have you ever had one of those moments where you realize—mid-sentence, mid-meltdown, mid-clean-sheets-getting-peed-on—that you’re aware of what’s happening and still doing it anyway?

Yeah. Me too. 🫠

Whether it’s a childhood trauma, a creative block, or just being bone-tired and snapping at your kid, the chaos doesn’t stop. But how we choose to show up in it? That’s where the transformation begins.

This week’s episode was like a spiritual enema for your excuses—flushing out the bullshit so you can rise like the phoenix you are (minus the ashes, unless you’re into that). Here’s the tea, served with a side of zero fucks:

✔ Stop arguing with technology and start owning your spotlight.

✔ Turn “this happened to me” into “this happened FOR me” like a metaphysical DJ remixing your pain into power.

✔ Your “boundaries” might just be fancy prisons. Protecting your growth ≠ protecting your excuses.

✔ Feeling your feelings isn’t enough. Do something with them.

Whether you’re negotiating with your toddler, your trauma, or your laundry pile—we see you. Owning your life doesn’t mean pretending it’s perfect. It means choosing how you meet it.

🏆 Life doesn’t hand out participation trophies—but it does leave breadcrumbs of wisdom in the chaos. 

Think of these takeaways as your cheat sheet for radical ownership—because transformation doesn’t happen in the safe, pretty corners of your comfort zone. It happens when you’re knee-deep in the "Oh shit" moments, laughing through the pee-soaked sheets, and still choosing to show up as the hero of your story:

1. Awareness Isn’t Enough

   You can be fully aware of your patterns—your triggers, your wounds, your cycles—and still be living in them. Awareness is a beginning, not an ending. It’s tempting to stop there, to call it “growth,” but the truth is: knowing without action is just more spiritual bypassing. The real work begins when we ask, Now that I know this, what am I going to do about it? 

2. You Can’t Bypass the Shadow.

   Yes, you're light. Yes, you're love. But you also have rage, grief, fear, and wounds that shape the way you see and survive the world. Pretending the dark parts of you don’t exist doesn’t make you more enlightened—it makes you more exhausted. Owning your whole self, shadow and all, is the only way to access your full power.

3. Victimhood Can Feel Like Safety.

   It gives you something to hold onto when everything feels out of control. The story, the blame, the familiar script—it can feel like a warm blanket. But comfort isn’t the same as freedom. Staying in victimhood might feel protective, but it also keeps you stuck, bitter, and small. Ownership is riskier. But it’s the only way out of the loop. 

4. Energy Comes After Action

   Waiting for motivation, clarity, or energy before you begin is a lie that keeps you stagnant. In reality, the moment you start—take the step, ask for help, move your body, have the uncomfortable conversation—that’s when energy rushes in. Not before. Start tired, confused, messy… and notice how the fuel shows up once you commit.

   
   

Your turn: SO - what's the thing? What are you gunna do this week to move through some stagnant energy? Now's the time, the time is now.  🎶